Dress Codes

Of Three Girlhoods---My Mother's, My Father's, and Mine

Paperback, 352 pages

English language

Published Jan. 1, 2002 by Picador.

ISBN:
978-0-312-42220-2
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OCLC Number:
48613366

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3 stars (1 review)

Throughout her childhood in suburban Ohio, Noelle struggled to gain love and affection from her distant father. In compensating for her father’s brusqueness, Noelle idolized her nurturing tomboy mother and her conservative grandma who tried to turn her into “a little lady.” At age 14, Noelle’s mom told her the family secret straight out: “Dad likes to wear women’s clothes.”

As Noelle copes with a turbulent adolescence, further confused by the male and female role models she had as a girl, her father begins to metamorphose into the loving parent she had always longed for—only now outfitted in pedal pushers and pink lipstick. Could becoming a woman make her father a completely different person? With edgy humor, courage, and remarkable sensitivity, Noelle Howey challenges all of our beliefs in what constitutes gender and a “normal” family.

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3 stars

An interesting story by an interesting woman, despite the fact that so much of the story is about her reaction to her parents and her grandparents. Noelle's father is the strong silent type of man, whose only passion is acting. Noelle's mother is a no-nonsense, practical woman who doesn't think she's interesting. Noelle's father is strong and silent because his big fear is that people will know he likes dressing up in women's clothing. Then he decides to come out. You'd figure that would make enough of a story, but really the book is about people's idea of themselves, and the grandmother is a perfect example of this. Noelle, Granny and Mom end up playing roles of their own, and find out that they're just as restrictive and self-defeating as the strong man Dad tries to be. Especially interesting is how Noelle's own sexuality and personality is shaped by her …

Subjects

  • Alternative Sexual Behavior
  • Parent And Child
  • Biography & Autobiography
  • Biography / Autobiography
  • Biography/Autobiography
  • Literary
  • Personal Memoirs
  • Biography & Autobiography / Literary
  • Family Relationships